Relationship Lab

Your online campus that trains you to help couples repair their relationships.

Your online campus that trains you to help couples repair their relationships.

The Relationship Lab

Vulnerability is the key

to relationship success.

And it's not taught anywhere.

21 phrases that end every argument

The only proven way to restore a marriage

Until now.

Learn the art of what makes you loveable. For singles and couples!

DEREK HART

The Relationship Lab

The Relationship Lab

The Relationship Lab

Vulnerability is the key to relationship success. And it's not taught anywhere.

Until now.

Learn the art of what makes you loveable. For singles and couples!

DEREK HART
DEREK HART
Relationship Lab Points
For Individuals And Couples To Learn How To Come Back Into Connection

Build the proper skillset. Learn from live couples sessions. Recognize how vulnerability secures their relationship.

PRACTICE CONNECTION EXERCISES WITH OTHERS DURING OUR LIVE SESSIONS

Relationship advice usually doesn’t help. Your loved ones mean well, and miss the mark entirely. Together we will accomplish the delicate improvisation that is necessary to understand how to bring two people, that are upset with each other, back to love.

Vulnerability

There is a hidden safety level in every relationship that determines if it's safe to take a risk. Learn how to see it clearly.

Emotion

Emotion is the messenger of love. Understand the emotional signals you send, and the ones sent back to you.

Attachment Style

Become clear if you protest to feel understood, withdraw and go away, or a little of both.

Reactivity

Understand what happens at the exact moment someone hurts you or steps over your boundaries.

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MOST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE
WON'T HELP YOU.
I WANT TO GIVE YOU THE
EXACT STEPS TO KNOW...
how your predictable struggle
can be interrupted.
MOST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE WON'T HELP YOU.
I WANT TO GIVE YOU THE EXACT STEPS TO KNOW...
how your predictable struggle can be interrupted.

Does this happen?

Yelling or blaming?

Arguing with no repair?

Creating the exact same fights?

Invalidating each other?

Criticizing or feeling criticized?

Walking on eggshells?

Barely listen to each other?

Then stop doing this:

Analyzing your partner's flaws.

Coaching your partner.

Trying to make them feel better.

Solving problems by arguing details.

Trying to be heard over and over.

Explaining your point over and over.

Calling them avoidant or anxious.

Relationships End

Most relationships end for one reason.

It has nothing to do with compatibility, communication styles, love languages nor attachment styles.

Connection takes 30 seconds. Distress takes hours. Learn the one predictable fight that keeps you out of love.

"That wasn't my intention. That's your story on your side. You need to take ownership of your feelings. I can't make you feel anything." This is the most damaging information taught about relationships, that it's your fault if you feel hurt. We are wired to need each other, and we have to help each other when we hurt each other. MANY relationship courses teach this misinformation.

Most relationships end for one reason.

It has nothing to do with compatibility, communication styles, love languages nor attachment styles.

Connection takes 30 seconds. Distress takes hours. Learn the one predictable fight that keeps you out of love.

"That wasn't my intention. That's your story on your side. You need to take ownership of your feelings. I can't make you feel anything." This is the most damaging information taught about relationships, that it's your fault if you feel hurt. We are wired to need each other, and we have to help each other when we hurt each other. MANY relationship courses teach this misinformation.

Most relationships end for one reason.

It has nothing to do with compatibility, communication styles, love languages nor attachment styles.

Connection takes 30 seconds. Distress takes hours. Learn the one predictable fight that keeps you out of love.

"That wasn't my intention. That's your story on your side. You need to take ownership of your feelings. I can't make you feel anything." This is the most damaging information taught about relationships, that it's your fault if you feel hurt. We are wired to need each other, and we have to help each other when we hurt each other. MANY relationship courses teach this misinformation.

Double Bind

The source of all conflict is two people wishing the other would respond differently. That is the real conversation underneath the conversation.

Coping Strategies

Nobody has ever shown you what to do when you get scared, frustrated, irritated, hurt in relationship. Learn the steps to do instead.

Yes Must Replace No

Your relationship falls apart because your continuous answer to each other is No, you shouldn't feel that. But should you say yes to them if you don't agree?

Poor Training

The least effective thing I can do as your couples coach is teach you relationship information. I must show you an experience of connection with your partner.

Relationship Lab What's Included
What's Included:
Relationship Lab Online Event
Twice Per Month Live Relationship Lab
Derek will take couples from distress back to closeness. Then questions and answers will be asked, for you to answer with others in your private zoom rooms. Then we all deepen with large group sharing. This is your relationship lab.
Twice Per Month Live Relationship Lab
Derek will take couples from distress back to closeness. Then questions and answers will be asked, for you to answer with others in your private zoom rooms. Then we all deepen with large group sharing. This is your relationship lab.
Courses
All Online Courses
Immediate Unlimited Access To All Online Courses From Derek's Vault Over The Last 10 Years, Plus Early Access To All Live Couples Training Sessions.
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All Online Courses
Immediate Unlimited Access To All Online Courses From Derek's Vault Over The Last 10 Years, Plus Early Access To All Live Couples Training Sessions.
0 Courses
0 Videos
0 Lessons
0 Courses
0 Videos
0 Lessons
Community
Your Community
Events will be planned. Connections will be made. Our live meetings are only the start of the relationships you will build here. A group dedicated to getting better at vulnerability.
Office hours Q&A
Deep empathic support
Faster clarity for you
Your Community
Events will be planned. Connections will be made. Our live meetings are only the start of the relationships you will build here. A group dedicated to getting better at vulnerability.
Office hours Q&A
Deep empathic support
Faster clarity for you
Your Community
Events will be planned. Connections will be made. Our live meetings are only the start of the relationships you will build here. A group dedicated to getting better at vulnerability.
Office hours Q&A
Deep empathic support
Faster clarity for you
Relationship Lab Live Invites
Exclusive Invite List
Access to in-person groups is only given to members.
4-hour connection evenings
8 couples group sessions
Expert guest teacher days
Full day vulnerability trainings
Weekend couples rebuilding retreats
Exclusive Invite List
Access to in-person groups is only given to members.
4-hour connection evenings
8 couples group sessions
Expert guest teacher days
Full day vulnerability trainings
Weekend couples rebuilding retreats
Exclusive Invite List
Access to in-person groups is only given to members.
4-hour connection evenings
8 couples group sessions
Expert guest teacher days
Full day vulnerability trainings
Weekend couples rebuilding retreats
Relationship Lab Affiliate Program
Affilitate Program

You get a private link

Refer your favorite people

Continuous residual payments

Full time income potential

Build your trusting community

Affilitate Program

You get a private link

Refer your favorite people

Continuous residual payments

Full time income potential

Build your trusting community

Affilitate Program

You get a private link

Refer your favorite people

Continuous residual payments

Full time income potential

Build your trusting community

Testimonials
❤️ I feel her acceptance.
Danielle & Mike discuss what it
was like working with Derek.
🌹 Mike can digest my love.
❤️ I feel her acceptance.
Danielle & Mike discuss what it
was like working with Derek.
🌹 Mike can digest my love.
Testimonials
Healing Your Relationships
More stories of couples that rebuilt their connection.
Healing Your Relationships
More stories of couples that rebuilt their connection.
Masha/Rob - Derek explained us to each other.
Shai/Lea - deeper connection
Eric/Denise - 21 years to open up
The Relationship Lab Core Skills Modules
The Relationship Lab Core Skills

Attunement
Attunement
When your relationship is stressed, you feel that something is just off. Remember the ease when you first met? There was no need for communication training. In Core Skills Attunement we bring you right back to knowing how to create that safety and good will again towards your partner. It happens in seconds with the right words and the right tone.
You will learn:
ACCESSIBILITY
Will you be there for me?
RESPONSIVENESS
Can I rely on you?
ENGAGEMENT
Do I matter to you?


You are hands down the best person that has ever come into my life! I have lived so much deep pain and a broken heavy heart for a huge part of what should be the most enjoyable time in my life. It's even impacted my health and ability to enjoy myself or even smile some days. No one has ever given me the gift of immediate relief like this as you have (because I'll be able to find the answers I need to move forward in my life for the first time). You're a true healer who knows how to teach and guide. You have a heart of gold. I can't wait to rave about you to Jacque as you're often the topic of our conversations, as she has been telling me to come see you for a while now. See you soon.

-- JESSICA FINN

Team
Team
You know what the word team means, right? Well I am talking about what happens in relationship at the moment you are both triggered at the same time, and your needs and stories are in direct opposition. To stay in connection requires a team-building emotional effort, together.
You will learn:
THE DOUBLE BIND
Same moment, two stories.
THE SLOW DOWN
Move the focus within.
THE REAL ENEMY
The pattern, not each other.


I want to nominate you, Derek, to teach emotional intelligence to every single child in our nation. So be it. Get on it. It's a train wreck out there.

-- ELIZABETH MORIARTY

Differentiation
Differentiation
Your childhood, all your previous relationships and your current relationship all stimulate deep experiences and memories inside you. But the deepest healing takes place when this relationship is properly used to heal your past. The past moment is not happening now, and you will learn to notice and make sense of the difference.
You will learn:
CHILDHOOD
When to shift attention.
NOW
The heart doesn't know time.
LATER
Relate future worry to now.


We'd been to 4 therapists. What Derek did differently was make eye contact with my husband, and they both had tears in their eyes. I bet they teach therapists in school to not do this. It's the moment that changed our marriage. He's our paid professional and he's in tears with us. I've never seen my husband cry in 9 years. Derek modeled how to be close to me, by being close to me, and showing Shane how.

-- LUCY SMITH

Double Bind
Double Bind
The understanding of what happens when you're both irritated or hurt at the same moment is required to prevent breakup/divorce. If you hurt each other's feelings without repair you will lose relationship resillience and it will eventually catch up with you. It always does.
You will learn:
5 SECONDS
To see both triggers.
RESPONSIBILITY
Both do the heavy lifting.
SOFTENING EVENT
Interrupt the pattern.


Derek was "with" my honey and me on New Years Eve. Not in body but in spirit as we went to a deep vulnerable place and often brought "what Derek said" into our conversation and even reaching for our phones to read a meme or another brilliant message that we had saved. When it comes time for couples work - Derek will be the go to. I share him with everyone and suggest that others follow him. We love you Derek!

-- Laura Schneider

Weaponizing
Weaponizing
You know what information couples use against each other? Everything. So many of us are sophisticated with our self help learning, with all the therapy we've done. Give me a couple that's done a Non-Violent-Communication workshop and I'll give you a couple that's arguing about it.
You will learn: