Practitioner
Welcome To
Attachment University
Welcome To
Attachment University

Your online campus that trains you to help Couples repair their relationships.

Bi-Monthly Live Sessions

Focusing On:

Vulnerability
Stage One Primary Emotion
Stage Two Secondary Emotion
Emotional Signals
Inward Emotional Contact
Interpersonal Emotional Contact
Coping Mechanisms
Anxious Attachment Strategy
Avoidant Attachment Strategy
Hybrid Attachment Strategy
Secure Attachment Strategy
The Biology Of Emotion
Emotions And Meaning Making
Criticizer Softening Event
Withdrawer Re-engagement Event
Talking For Them In First Person
Double Bind
Negative Interaction Cycle
Attachment Injury
Countertransference
Loaning Your Limbic System
Incompatibility
Counselor Revealing
Rigid To Flexible Coping
Contraindications For Couples Work
Pre-Couples Counseling
Faster Cognitive Talking
Slow And Low Emotional Talking
Nugget Of The Story
De-escalation, Safety, Emotional Danger
Trauma And Slicing It Thinner
Blamer Softening
Attachment Fears, Longings and Needs
Empathetic Conjecture
Restructuring Interactions
Humility, Admission Of Not Knowing
Evocative Heightening Of Emotion
Watching Two At Once
Holding Recognized Pain Together
Counselor As Temporary Attachment Figure
Magnitude Of Pain, Revisiting Repair
Slow Down Turn Cognitive Element Into Emotion
Counselor Included As Imperfect
Explain Interruption Important Couple's Words
Pattern As Enemy, Not Each Other
Correct Counselor Strengthens Couple Alliance
New Emotional Experience, New Interaction
No Secrets, Counselor Has No Hidden Curtain
Counselor Enticed Into Debate
Welcome To Attachment University

Your online campus that trains you to help Couples repair their relationships.

Bi-Monthly Live Sessions

Focusing On:

Vulnerability
Stage One Primary Emotion
Stage Two Secondary Emotion
Emotional Signals
Inward Emotional Contact
Interpersonal Emotional Contact
Coping Mechanisms
Anxious Attachment Strategy
Avoidant Attachment Strategy
Hybrid Attachment Strategy
Secure Attachment Strategy
The Biology Of Emotion
Emotions And Meaning Making
Criticizer Softening Event
Withdrawer Re-engagement Event
Talking For Them In First Person
Double Bind
Negative Interaction Cycle
Attachment Injury
Countertransference
Loaning Your Limbic System
Incompatibility
Counselor Revealing
Rigid To Flexible Coping
Contraindications For Couples Work
Pre-Couples Counseling
Faster Cognitive Talking
Slow And Low Emotional Talking
Nugget Of The Story
De-escalation, Safety, Emotional Danger
Trauma And Slicing It Thinner
Blamer Softening
Attachment Fears, Longings and Needs
Empathetic Conjecture
Restructuring Interactions
Humility, Admission Of Not Knowing
Evocative Heightening Of Emotion
Watching Two At Once
Holding Recognized Pain Together
Counselor As Temporary Attachment Figure
Magnitude Of Pain, Revisiting Repair
Slow Down Turn Cognitive Element Into Emotion
Counselor Included As Imperfect
Explain Interruption Important Couple's Words
Pattern As Enemy, Not Each Other
Correct Counselor Strengthens Couple Alliance
New Emotional Experience, New Interaction
No Secrets, Counselor Has No Hidden Curtain
Counselor Enticed Into Debate
DEREK HART
Practitioner Points
Become A Master Couples Practitioner

Build the proper skillset. Learn from live couples sessions. Recognize how vulnerability secures their relationship.

ATTENTION: THERAPISTS, COACHES AND THOSE WHO CURRENTLY
OR WISH TO BEGIN HELPING COUPLES

You

You're a therapist or coach and want the deep fulfillment of helping Couples rebuild their relationships.

Them

Distressed Couples don't understand how their emotional signals became scrambled with each other, nor how to reconnect.

Skills

They need your expertise to make sense of their emotions; gain the confidence to properly guide them.

Community

Join our community of practitioners so you can evolve your understanding of attachment and help Couples become secure.

While the course is designed primarily for Couples Practitioners, a deep understanding of Couples' relationships gives you an edge in your field of expertise.

 

For example, realtors selling homes become deeply involved in the experience of the Couple. Family law attorneys, mediators and financial advisors support Couples with planning their future. The clients of many professions can exponentially benefit from the principles learned at Attachment University. As a business professional, you will enjoy better outcomes with your clients.

Shawn & Stacy
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Shawn & Stacy Model The Solution
Will they call off their marriage because her bachelorette party was at a male strip club? The only thing that restores the emotional safety in relationship is what you witness here, Shawn courageously processing his fears with Stacy, vulnerably, with no blame. Revealing his insecure feelings is the strength, not the weakness.
Toria & Boris
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Toria & Boris
The couple explains their struggle, but sends each other scrambled emotional signals. Derek interprets their struggle for them. He slowly expresses what Boris experiences, while keeping an eye on helping Toria accept his pain. Note her very real compassion at the end, her head nodding. That’s emotional attunement, even though she has not yet been heard. We do this in small slices, which rebuilds their trust.
Jen & Max
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Jen & Max
Notice that Derek is continuously watching for emotion. It's immediately on her face. She is in pain, and needs to be witnessed, specifically by her partner. If the counselor asked other questions, note how this would take her away from emotion, into left brain thinking. The human heart does not understand most of the human story. It understands fear, sadness, yearning and joy, and needs just a little bit of the meaning the person gives to the hurt.
Lee & Carrie
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Lee & Carrie
Derek enhances Carrie's unexpressed emotions by including a younger version of herself. Then he helps her distinguish between 51 year old Carrie and 5 year old Carrie, so she can directly have more power over her reactivity. Notice the respect for the 5 year old. And doing this with Lee's compassion makes this interpersonal, as they both hold her pain. They are directly inside the solution to reconnect.
Practitioner What's Included
What's Included:
Courses
All Online Courses
Immediate Unlimited Access To All Online Courses From Derek's Vault Over The Last 10 Years, Plus Early Access To All Live Couples Training Sessions.
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All Online Courses
Immediate Unlimited Access To All Online Courses From Derek's Vault Over The Last 10 Years, Plus Early Access To All Live Couples Training Sessions.
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0 Videos
0 Lessons
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Practitioner Training
Twice Per Month Live Couples Training Sessions
Join the most extensive worldwide couples attachment training. Work with couples live and break apart sessions. Learn attachment theory with couples, the only scientifically studied way to help the distressed couple rebuild their connection.
Understand the parts of the couples' story that are relevant to creating secure attachment.
Twice Per Month Live Couples Training Sessions
Join the most extensive worldwide couples attachment training. Work with couples live and break apart sessions. Learn attachment theory with couples, the only scientifically studied way to help the distressed couple rebuild their connection.
Understand the parts of the couples' story that are relevant to creating secure attachment.
Understand the parts of the couples' story that are relevant to creating secure attachment.
Community
Your Community Of Colleagues
You are now part of a growing collective wisdom. No questions will go unanswered regarding intimacy and closeness. As you help your clients, or even friends and family with their relationships, you come to the table equipped with all new capabilities.
Safe, caring online platform for collaboration
Refill your tank with community support
Breakout zoom rooms build your connections
Your Community Of Colleagues
You are now part of a growing collective wisdom. No questions will go unanswered regarding intimacy and closeness. As you help your clients, or even friends and family with their relationships, you come to the table equipped with all new capabilities.
Safe, caring online platform for collaboration
Refill your tank with community support
Breakout zoom rooms build your connections
Safe, caring online platform for collaboration
Refill your tank with community support
Breakout zoom rooms build your connections
Supervision Groups
Join Your SuperviseLab™ Small Group For Personalized Help With Your Clients
Take your couples mastery to the next level with your monthly Supervision Group.
Breakdown client's attachment strategies
Comprehend couple's emotional capabilities
Assess for couple incompatibility
Assess for inability to access emotion
De-escalate high-conflict couples
Join Your SuperviseLab™ Small Group For Personalized Help With Your Clients
Take your couples mastery to the next level with small Supervision Groups.
Breakdown client's attachment strategies
Comprehend couple's emotional capabilities
Assess for couple incompability
Assess for inability to access emotion
De-escalate high-conflict couples
Breakdown client's attachment strategies
Comprehend couple's emotional capabilities
Assess for couple incompatibility
Assess for inability to access emotion
De-escalate high-conflict couples
QuickLab Short Clips
QuickLab™ Short Clips
Short clips that give immediate attachment-based solutions to the most relevant topics couples face every day.
What does the couple do about
parenting differences?
jealousy?
emotional affairs?
porn addiction?
infidelity/cheating?
substance addiction?
preoccupation with social media?
wanting to open up the relationship?
trust issues?
sexual incompatibility?
ongoing criticism?
threats to leave the relationship?
lack of sexual chemistry?
rage and anger?
constant debating?
lack of empathy?
miscommunication?
differences with polyamory/monogamy?
overspending?
sarcasm?
unclear agreements?
repeated broken agreements?
too much time alone?
boredom with each other?
not enough time together?
too much blame?
opinions turning to fights?
walking on eggshells?
successfully navigating polyamory?
too much reactivity?
lack of responsiveness?
feeling happier alone?
overwhelm in other areas?
competing family/friend attachments?
zero appreciation/mostly criticism?
over involvement/enmeshment?
children leaving the nest?
out of balance giving?
controlling behavior?
gaslighting behavior?
going to bed still hurt?
keeping score/interactional relating?
sharing outside sexual interests?
QuickLab™ Short Clips
Short clips that give immediate attachment-based solutions to the most relevant topics couples face every day.
What does the couple do about
parenting differences?
jealousy?
emotional affairs?
porn addiction?
infidelity/cheating?
substance addiction?
preoccupation with social media?
wanting to open up the relationship?
trust issues?
sexual incompatibility?
ongoing criticism?
threats to leave the relationship?
lack of sexual chemistry?
rage and anger?
constant debating?
lack of empathy?
miscommunication?
differences with polyamory/monogamy?
overspending?
sarcasm?
unclear agreements?
repeated broken agreements?
too much time alone?
boredom with each other?
not enough time together?
too much blame?
opinions turning to fights?
walking on eggshells?
successfully navigating polyamory?
too much reactivity?
lack of responsiveness?
feeling happier alone?
overwhelm in other areas?
competing family/friend attachments?
zero appreciation/mostly criticism?
over involvement/enmeshment?
children leaving the nest?
out of balance giving?
controlling behavior?
gaslighting behavior?
going to bed still hurt?
keeping score/interactional relating?
sharing outside sexual interests?
What does the couple do about
parenting differences?
jealousy?
emotional affairs?
porn addiction?
infidelity/cheating?
substance addiction?
preoccupation with social media?
wanting to open up the relationship?
trust issues?
sexual incompatibility?
ongoing criticism?
threats to leave the relationship?
lack of sexual chemistry?
rage and anger?
constant debating?
lack of empathy?
miscommunication?
differences with polyamory/monogamy?
overspending?
sarcasm?
unclear agreements?
repeated broken agreements?
too much time alone?
boredom with each other?
not enough time together?
too much blame?
opinions turning to fights?
walking on eggshells?
successfully navigating polyamory?
too much reactivity?
lack of responsiveness?
feeling happier alone?
overwhelm in other areas?
competing family/friend attachments?
zero appreciation/mostly criticism?
over involvement/enmeshment?
children leaving the nest?
out of balance giving?
controlling behavior?
gaslighting behavior?
going to bed still hurt?
keeping score/interactional relating?
sharing outside sexual interests?
Practitioner Couple
7 steps when a couple is already securely attached

1. The Problem

2. Clarification

3. Imagine

4. Emotion

5. Clarify

6. Deeper

7. Secure

7 steps when a couple is already securely attached

1. The Problem

2. Clarification

3. Imagine

4. Emotion

5. Clarify

6. Deeper

7. Secure

Note From Derek
Hello Practitioners,
I have spent a lifetime preparing to teach what I have learned.
I am humbled by the messages I receive from experts I respect.
It is my wish to build a school that is entirely dedicated to the couple.
After decades of studying psychology, I've discovered that there's not enough formal education on the highly unique process of helping a couple in distress.
Of the Master's degrees and PhD programs I've researched, the majority do not have specific curriculum focusing on Couples.
I hope to pass on to you what I've learned.
I cannot wait to see you in our practitioner sessions.
All My Love,
Hello Practitioners,
I have spent a lifetime preparing to teach what I have learned.
I am humbled by the messages I receive from experts I respect.
It is my wish to build a school that is entirely dedicated to the couple.
After decades of studying psychology, I've discovered that there's not enough formal education on the highly unique process of helping a couple in distress.
Of the Master's degrees and PhD programs I've researched, the majority do not have specific curriculum focusing on Couples.
I hope to pass on to you what I've learned.
I cannot wait to see you in our practitioner sessions.
All My Love,
Hello Practitioners,
I have spent a lifetime preparing to teach what I have learned.
I am humbled by the messages I receive from experts I respect.
It is my wish to build a school that is entirely dedicated to the couple.
After decades of studying psychology, I've discovered that there's not enough formal education on the highly unique process of helping a couple in distress.
Of the Master's degrees and PhD programs I've researched, the majority do not have specific curriculum focusing on Couples.
I hope to pass on to you what I've learned.
I cannot wait to see you in our practitioner sessions.
All My Love,
Simple Point 001
What You'll Receive
300+ HOURS OF ORGANIZED TRAININGS
You will learn the art of intuition, emotional attunement and the exact rewarding path to take a distressed Couple back to connection.
TWICE A MONTH PRACTITIONER ONLINE EVENT
You will engage with a group of colleagues all witnessing the breakdown of Couples sessions, guided by Derek.
All Times Pacific Standard Time (GMT-8)
2nd Thursday 5pm pst, 4th Thursday 9am pst - (90 minutes)
There will be surprise visits announced in the Facebook group.
ALL MEETINGS RECORDED TO WATCH AT YOUR CONVENIENCE.
QUESTIONS/ANSWERS IN FACEBOOK GROUP FOR EVERY COUPLES SCENARIO
If one therapist or coach is struggling with a particular issue, most likely many others are. Here we will learn the most relevant solutions as your colleagues share their coaching experiences.
SUPPORT FROM YOUR COLLEAGUES
Those that counsel Couples rarely have any kind of supportive community to keep them on track. This is more than accountability. This is collective wisdom that will build for all of us.
What You'll Receive
300+ HOURS OF ORGANIZED TRAININGS
You will learn the art of intuition, emotional attunement and the exact rewarding path to take a distressed Couple back to connection.
TWICE A MONTH PRACTITIONER ONLINE EVENT
You will engage with a group of colleagues all witnessing the breakdown of Couples sessions, guided by Derek.
All Times Pacific Standard Time (GMT-8)
2nd Thursday 5pm pst, 4th Thursday 9am pst - (90 minutes)
There will be surprise visits announced in the Facebook group.
ALL MEETINGS RECORDED TO WATCH AT YOUR CONVENIENCE.
QUESTIONS/ANSWERS IN FACEBOOK GROUP FOR EVERY COUPLES SCENARIO
If one therapist or coach is struggling with a particular issue, most likely many others are. Here we will learn the most relevant solutions as your colleagues share their coaching experiences.
SUPPORT FROM YOUR COLLEAGUES
Those that counsel Couples rarely have any kind of supportive community to keep them on track. This is more than accountability. This is collective wisdom that will build for all of us.
What You'll Receive
300+ HOURS OF ORGANIZED TRAININGS
You will learn the art of intuition, emotional attunement and the exact rewarding path to take a distressed Couple back to connection.
TWICE A MONTH PRACTITIONER ONLINE EVENT
You will engage with a group of colleagues all witnessing the breakdown of Couples sessions, guided by Derek.
All Times Pacific Standard Time (GMT-8)
2nd Thursday 5pm pst, 4th Thursday 9am pst - (90 minutes)
There will be surprise visits announced in the Facebook group.
ALL MEETINGS RECORDED TO WATCH AT YOUR CONVENIENCE.
QUESTIONS/ANSWERS IN FACEBOOK GROUP FOR EVERY COUPLES SCENARIO
If one therapist or coach is struggling with a particular issue, most likely many others are. Here we will learn the most relevant solutions as your colleagues share their coaching experiences.
SUPPORT FROM YOUR COLLEAGUES
Those that counsel Couples rarely have any kind of supportive community to keep them on track. This is more than accountability. This is collective wisdom that will build for all of us.
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Join Yearly
BEST VALUE!
START Today at
$27/First Month
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ONE ANNUAL PAYMENT OF $924
Early members receive this lifetime discount.
Easily cancel or change from monthly to yearly (and vice versa) anytime from within your account portal.
Become An Attachment University Practitioner
Choose a subscription option that's best for you. Enrollment closes in:
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Days
00
Hours
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Minutes
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Seconds
SAVE $1200/YR AS AN EARLY MEMBER
Join Monthly
MOST POPULAR!
START Today at
$27/First Month
$97/mo
MONTHLY SUBSCRIPTION
Early members receive this lifetime discount.
SAVE $1440/YR AS AN EARLY MEMBER
Join Yearly
BEST VALUE!
START Today at
$27/First Month
$77/mo
ONE ANNUAL PAYMENT OF $924
Early members receive this lifetime discount.
SAVE $3,000/YR AS AN EARLY MEMBER
Join Yearly w/ SuperviseLab™
Supervision For
Your Practice
$247/mo
ONE ANNUAL PAYMENT OF $2,964
Early members receive this lifetime discount.
Easily cancel or change from monthly to yearly (and vice versa) anytime from within your account portal.