Practitioner
Welcome To
Attachment University
Welcome To
Attachment University

Your online campus that trains you to help Couples repair their relationships.

Bi-Monthly Live Sessions

Focusing On:

Vulnerability
Stage One Primary Emotion
Stage Two Secondary Emotion
Emotional Signals
Inward Emotional Contact
Interpersonal Emotional Contact
Coping Mechanisms
Anxious Attachment Strategy
Avoidant Attachment Strategy
Hybrid Attachment Strategy
Secure Attachment Strategy
The Biology Of Emotion
Emotions And Meaning Making
Criticizer Softening Event
Withdrawer Re-engagement Event
Talking For Them In First Person
Double Bind
Negative Interaction Cycle
Attachment Injury
Countertransference
Loaning Your Limbic System
Incompatibility
Counselor Revealing
Rigid To Flexible Coping
Contraindications For Couples Work
Pre-Couples Counseling
Faster Cognitive Talking
Slow And Low Emotional Talking
Nugget Of The Story
De-escalation, Safety, Emotional Danger
Trauma And Slicing It Thinner
Blamer Softening
Attachment Fears, Longings and Needs
Empathetic Conjecture
Restructuring Interactions
Humility, Admission Of Not Knowing
Evocative Heightening Of Emotion
Watching Two At Once
Holding Recognized Pain Together
Counselor As Temporary Attachment Figure
Magnitude Of Pain, Revisiting Repair
Slow Down Turn Cognitive Element Into Emotion
Counselor Included As Imperfect
Explain Interruption Important Couple's Words
Pattern As Enemy, Not Each Other
Correct Counselor Strengthens Couple Alliance
New Emotional Experience, New Interaction
No Secrets, Counselor Has No Hidden Curtain
Counselor Enticed Into Debate
Welcome To Attachment University

Your online campus that trains you to help Couples repair their relationships.

Bi-Monthly Live Sessions

Focusing On:

Vulnerability
Stage One Primary Emotion
Stage Two Secondary Emotion
Emotional Signals
Inward Emotional Contact
Interpersonal Emotional Contact
Coping Mechanisms
Anxious Attachment Strategy
Avoidant Attachment Strategy
Hybrid Attachment Strategy
Secure Attachment Strategy
The Biology Of Emotion
Emotions And Meaning Making
Criticizer Softening Event
Withdrawer Re-engagement Event
Talking For Them In First Person
Double Bind
Negative Interaction Cycle
Attachment Injury
Countertransference
Loaning Your Limbic System
Incompatibility
Counselor Revealing
Rigid To Flexible Coping
Contraindications For Couples Work
Pre-Couples Counseling
Faster Cognitive Talking
Slow And Low Emotional Talking
Nugget Of The Story
De-escalation, Safety, Emotional Danger
Trauma And Slicing It Thinner
Blamer Softening
Attachment Fears, Longings and Needs
Empathetic Conjecture
Restructuring Interactions
Humility, Admission Of Not Knowing
Evocative Heightening Of Emotion
Watching Two At Once
Holding Recognized Pain Together
Counselor As Temporary Attachment Figure
Magnitude Of Pain, Revisiting Repair
Slow Down Turn Cognitive Element Into Emotion
Counselor Included As Imperfect
Explain Interruption Important Couple's Words
Pattern As Enemy, Not Each Other
Correct Counselor Strengthens Couple Alliance
New Emotional Experience, New Interaction
No Secrets, Counselor Has No Hidden Curtain
Counselor Enticed Into Debate
DEREK HART
Practitioner Points
Become A Master Couples Practitioner

Build the proper skillset. Learn from live couples sessions. Recognize how vulnerability secures their relationship.

ATTENTION: THERAPISTS, COACHES AND THOSE WHO CURRENTLY
OR WISH TO BEGIN HELPING COUPLES

You

You're a therapist or coach and want the deep fulfillment of helping Couples rebuild their relationships.

Them

Distressed Couples don't understand how their emotional signals became scrambled with each other, nor how to reconnect.

Skills

They need your expertise to make sense of their emotions; gain the confidence to properly guide them.

Community

Join our community of practitioners so you can evolve your understanding of attachment and help Couples become secure.

While the course is designed primarily for Couples Practitioners, a deep understanding of Couples' relationships gives you an edge in your field of expertise.

 

For example, realtors selling homes become deeply involved in the experience of the Couple. Family law attorneys, mediators and financial advisors support Couples with planning their future. The clients of many professions can exponentially benefit from the principles learned at Attachment University. As a business professional, you will enjoy better outcomes with your clients.

Shawn & Stacy
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Shawn & Stacy Model The Solution
Will they call off their marriage because her bachelorette party was at a male strip club? The only thing that restores the emotional safety in relationship is what you witness here, Shawn courageously processing his fears with Stacy, vulnerably, with no blame. Revealing his insecure feelings is the strength, not the weakness.
Toria & Boris
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Toria & Boris
The couple explains their struggle, but sends each other scrambled emotional signals. Derek interprets their struggle for them. He slowly expresses what Boris experiences, while keeping an eye on helping Toria accept his pain. Note her very real compassion at the end, her head nodding. That’s emotional attunement, even though she has not yet been heard. We do this in small slices, which rebuilds their trust.
Jen & Max
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Jen & Max
Notice that Derek is continuously watching for emotion. It's immediately on her face. She is in pain, and needs to be witnessed, specifically by her partner. If the counselor asked other questions, note how this would take her away from emotion, into left brain thinking. The human heart does not understand most of the human story. It understands fear, sadness, yearning and joy, and needs just a little bit of the meaning the person gives to the hurt.
Lee & Carrie
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Lee & Carrie
Derek enhances Carrie's unexpressed emotions by including a younger version of herself. Then he helps her distinguish between 51 year old Carrie and 5 year old Carrie, so she can directly have more power over her reactivity. Notice the respect for the 5 year old. And doing this with Lee's compassion makes this interpersonal, as they both hold her pain. They are directly inside the solution to reconnect.
Practitioner What's Included
What's Included:
Courses
All Online Courses
Immediate Unlimited Access To All Online Courses From Derek's Vault Over The Last 10 Years, Plus Early Access To All Live Couples Training Sessions.
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All Online Courses
Immediate Unlimited Access To All Online Courses From Derek's Vault Over The Last 10 Years, Plus Early Access To All Live Couples Training Sessions.
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Practitioner Training
Twice Per Month Live Couples Training Sessions
Join the most extensive worldwide couples attachment training. Work with couples live and break apart sessions. Learn attachment theory with couples, the only scientifically studied way to help the distressed couple rebuild their connection.
Understand the parts of the couples' story that are relevant to creating secure attachment.
Twice Per Month Live Couples Training Sessions
Join the most extensive worldwide couples attachment training. Work with couples live and break apart sessions. Learn attachment theory with couples, the only scientifically studied way to help the distressed couple rebuild their connection.
Understand the parts of the couples' story that are relevant to creating secure attachment.
Understand the parts of the couples' story that are relevant to creating secure attachment.
Community
Your Community Of Colleagues
You are now part of a growing collective wisdom. No questions will go unanswered regarding intimacy and closeness. As you help your clients, or even friends and family with their relationships, you come to the table equipped with all new capabilities.
Safe, caring online platform for collaboration
Refill your tank with community support
Breakout zoom rooms build your connections
Your Community Of Colleagues
You are now part of a growing collective wisdom. No questions will go unanswered regarding intimacy and closeness. As you help your clients, or even friends and family with their relationships, you come to the table equipped with all new capabilities.
Safe, caring online platform for collaboration
Refill your tank with community support
Breakout zoom rooms build your connections
Safe, caring online platform for collaboration
Refill your tank with community support
Breakout zoom rooms build your connections
Supervision Groups
Join Your SuperviseLab™ Small Group For Personalized Help With Your Clients
Take your couples mastery to the next level with your monthly Supervision Group.
Breakdown client's attachment strategies
Comprehend couple's emotional capabilities
Assess for couple incompatibility
Assess for inability to access emotion
De-escalate high-conflict couples
Join Your SuperviseLab™ Small Group For Personalized Help With Your Clients
Take your couples mastery to the next level with small Supervision Groups.
Breakdown client's attachment strategies
Comprehend couple's emotional capabilities
Assess for couple incompability
Assess for inability to access emotion
De-escalate high-conflict couples
Breakdown client's attachment strategies
Comprehend couple's emotional capabilities
Assess for couple incompatibility
Assess for inability to access emotion
De-escalate high-conflict couples
QuickLab Short Clips
QuickLab™ Short Clips
Short clips that give immediate attachment-based solutions to the most relevant topics couples face every day.
What does the couple do about
parenting differences?
jealousy?
emotional affairs?
porn addiction?
infidelity/cheating?
substance addiction?
preoccupation with social media?
wanting to open up the relationship?
trust issues?
sexual incompatibility?
ongoing criticism?
threats to leave the relationship?
lack of sexual chemistry?
rage and anger?
constant debating?
lack of empathy?
miscommunication?
differences with polyamory/monogamy?
overspending?
sarcasm?
unclear agreements?
repeated broken agreements?
too much time alone?
boredom with each other?
not enough time together?
too much blame?
opinions turning to fights?
walking on eggshells?
successfully navigating polyamory?
too much reactivity?
lack of responsiveness?
feeling happier alone?
overwhelm in other areas?
competing family/friend attachments?
zero appreciation/mostly criticism?
over involvement/enmeshment?
children leaving the nest?
out of balance giving?
controlling behavior?
gaslighting behavior?
going to bed still hurt?
keeping score/interactional relating?
sharing outside sexual interests?
QuickLab™ Short Clips
Short clips that give immediate attachment-based solutions to the most relevant topics couples face every day.
What does the couple do about
parenting differences?
jealousy?
emotional affairs?
porn addiction?
infidelity/cheating?
substance addiction?
preoccupation with social media?
wanting to open up the relationship?
trust issues?
sexual incompatibility?
ongoing criticism?
threats to leave the relationship?
lack of sexual chemistry?
rage and anger?
constant debating?
lack of empathy?
miscommunication?
differences with polyamory/monogamy?
overspending?
sarcasm?
unclear agreements?
repeated broken agreements?
too much time alone?
boredom with each other?
not enough time together?
too much blame?
opinions turning to fights?
walking on eggshells?
successfully navigating polyamory?
too much reactivity?
lack of responsiveness?
feeling happier alone?
overwhelm in other areas?
competing family/friend attachments?
zero appreciation/mostly criticism?
over involvement/enmeshment?
children leaving the nest?
out of balance giving?
controlling behavior?
gaslighting behavior?
going to bed still hurt?
keeping score/interactional relating?
sharing outside sexual interests?
What does the couple do about
parenting differences?
jealousy?
emotional affairs?
porn addiction?
infidelity/cheating?
substance addiction?
preoccupation with social media?
wanting to open up the relationship?
trust issues?
sexual incompatibility?
ongoing criticism?
threats to leave the relationship?
lack of sexual chemistry?
rage and anger?
constant debating?
lack of empathy?
miscommunication?
differences with polyamory/monogamy?
overspending?
sarcasm?
unclear agreements?
repeated broken agreements?
too much time alone?
boredom with each other?
not enough time together?
too much blame?
opinions turning to fights?
walking on eggshells?
successfully navigating polyamory?
too much reactivity?
lack of responsiveness?
feeling happier alone?
overwhelm in other areas?
competing family/friend attachments?
zero appreciation/mostly criticism?
over involvement/enmeshment?
children leaving the nest?
out of balance giving?
controlling behavior?
gaslighting behavior?
going to bed still hurt?
keeping score/interactional relating?
sharing outside sexual interests?
Practitioner Couple
7 steps when a couple is already securely attached

1. The Problem

2. Clarification

3. Imagine

4. Emotion

5. Clarify

6. Deeper

7. Secure

7 steps when a couple is already securely attached

1. The Problem

2. Clarification

3. Imagine

4. Emotion

5. Clarify

6. Deeper

7. Secure

Attachment University Core Skills Modules
Attachment University Practitioner Skills Modules

Making Emotion Relational
Making Emotion
Relational
While practitioner skills will be continuously focused on to help people come back to their emotion, the key to bringing a couple back to connection is when the emotion is made relational. This is a spontaneous place we bring the couple. The spontaneity has to do with the magic moment when they are truly ready to share their emotion with each other, in their words, their version of this new training for them on vulnerability. We lead them to that point. When they are ready, they risk sharing the deeper feelings.

Rigid To Flexible Coping Strategies
Rigid To Flexible
Coping Strategies
Coping strategies represent the things we learned to do in childhood that protected us. We were brilliant to learn these coping strategies and they helped us adapt into our environment, which was possibly unsafe far too often. We become flexible. The process of opening the couple's emotion is a step-by-step observation of showing them new possibilities of flexibility. You do not help people remove their coping strategies. You help them see, in tiny steps, how to choose a more flexible option. We build on that. Once they get better at this we sometimes call it muscle memory, the muscle of the heart.

The Metabolic Load Of Emotion
The Metabolic Load
Of Emotion
We are meant to not be alone. If left alone as an infant, we literally die. We are helpless. Then we grow up and need each other still. As we all bring some parts of childhood that were difficult, we are shaped by this and how much we understand how to lean on another. Interdependence is complex, especially if we have trauma, as a good majority of couples you help will. They come to counseling in the first place, often, because they have trauma. We are here to teach them the dependence part of interdependence, and how to not hurt each other when they snap back into independence. We teach them to "carry" this emotion together, how to respond to each other so they know how to have the strength to lift it together.

Evocative Emotion Enactments
Evocative Emotion
Enactments
We begin with faster words, to talk directly, cognitively to the partners of the couple. We know their fast-paced defensiveness needs us to help them get below and behind it. Once they feel we are inside their world, they can make contact with their emotion. Our faster talking moves to slow and low talking, gently guiding them into and through their emotion. We then have them, at the right moment, share this emotion with each other. As practitioner we continually witness how they respond to each other, which guides us back to the speed at which we push them to deepen.

Temporary Attachment Figure
Temporary Attachment Figure
The temporary attachment figure is... you as the practitioner. It is not emotionally safe between them, and in tougher circumstances, with more trauma, it is emotionally dangerous. That means you build safety, very slowly, with each partner, while keeping an eye on the other partner. The other partner does not get left behind as counselor builds connection with their significant other. Each partner must feel safe to express, even with their partner in the room. But you are equally validating them both, as their reactivity gets ignited witnessing each other. The practitioner must become two safe attachment figures at once. We slice this into small moments. "I see you over there, I will be back to you in a few minutes, I promise. There's plenty of time for both of you. Thank you for letting me talk with your partner."

Cognitive Naming Of Emotion
Cognitive Naming
Of Emotion
Most couples show up because they are very far from their emotion. When they describe their problems with the relationship, they describe emotion. They describe frustrations, irritation, annoyances about life, and about their partner. We slow them down and start putting words to their emotions. We attempt to not name the emotions too fast. We don't use the word fear, the bottom line most important emotion, until they say the word scary, or state some idea that they're concerned about the future. We give gentle pushes by naming emotions, even though we're not yet experiencing too much of that emotion yet. This left-brained naming of emotion eventually opens them up to revealing, to feeling, to processing their experience together. Name it. Validate it. Name it more specifically. Then feel it.

Time Differentiation
Time Differentiation
While the truth is that most of our hurt comes from our past experience and the meaning we give that past experience, it is the present-day experience that stimulates our reactivity. It must be healed here. So you have two people attempting to take responsibility for hurting each other when the stimulation from the past is also involved. So we must validate both stories, but teach the couple to not weaponize stories against each other. Yes, your childhood increased your reactivity, but your partner also hurt you. They are both true. Both need validation. In couple's distress, both stories get invalidated. Blaming a partner for their difficult relationship with their mother... needs to be understood in how damaging that interaction is to their relationship. Couples learn this in small steps.

Inner World Contact
Inner World
Contact
It is not intuitive for the couple what they must do to connect. While they fight about feeling understood, which is valid, they don't yet understand that they have to make more emotional contact within. Yes, they are frustrated, but they are not in touch with their sadness, hurt and fear. We bring them in. We give them visuals, we ask them to give us visuals. Are they hiding under a bed, are they cornered against a wall by a barking dog, are they hearing sounds, are they smelling bad smells? Is it too hot or too cold in the room? Are they thirsty? Are they breathing? Can they feel their butt in the chair. We bring sensation to their body, then connect it to emotion, then connect is to the meaning they've made about their emotion. This is bringing back awareness of their internal Universe that they disconnected from long ago. When they both see each other's Universe, they open and vulnerability becomes possible between them. If they don't, we stay cognitive and discuss incompatibility.

Inner World Contact
Incompatibility
The practitioner must track when partners exit attuned emotional connection. It is not ethical to lead a couple into deeper closeness when there are barriers in the way. These barriers are legitimate, and often make it far too risky for the couple to open their vulnerabilities. The practitioner makes this known to the couple. There is no hiding behind some curtain withholding information from the couple. We disclose what is happening in real time. If one partner wants to have a child and the other is not ready, they might be able to share the emotion, but the actual life change and circumstance may mean that they need to part ways. So the practitioner helps them to not stay in denial about the state of their relationship. A seasoned practitioner knows how to help couples call it quits when appropriate, when the attachment keeps them hanging on, in purgatory. This is incompatibility.

Emotional Soup
Emotional Soup
The couple is always trying to tell you something. They attempt to put words to their experience. You must help them. They describe feeling words: hopeless, helpless, irritated, frustrated, upset. These words have a soup of emotion, multiple emotions, underneath. For our purposes fear and sadness will be the bottom line emotions that we attempt to locate. The couple's words and actions become protective and defensive. For example, shame protects a child in childhood, and its purpose is to protect a child from further rejection. In adult romance, shame causes partners to hide. When they hide, the bond suffers. We help the couple unstack the thinking words into the deeper feeling words, and ultimately guide them to express the feelings, live in session.

Emotional Soup
Attachment Injury
Repair
While we want to take a couple directly to their emotion and stay out of story, the most intense injuries sometimes happen, and the story is of vital importance. We must slice the current injury into small pieces, and weave it together. We have the difficulties the couple brought to the relationship, most likely, before the injury occurred, and we have the injury itself. For example, when we heal an infidelity, the couple doesn't know yet how to talk about the infidelity, so they are learning communication skills that they have never had, and they are repairing this injury, all at once. Attachment Injury Repair takes the most delicate, gentle balance that the practitioner must orchestrate.

The Biology Of Emotion
The Biology
Of Emotion
Our goal is to talk the couple into processing emotion. In our job of slowing down as practitioner, we help the couple, in real time, make contact with bodily sensation. Feel yourself breathing. You forgot to breathe just now. Where is this feeling you just described? In your throat, in your tummy? I see you squeezing your hands tight. The trapped emotion, and the hurt and the meaning of the emotion, is stored in the body. As we weave our way into their hearts, we name sensation and emotion and story, and head the couple into the processing of their wounds together.
Note From Derek
Hello Practitioners,
I have spent a lifetime preparing to teach what I have learned.
I am humbled by the messages I receive from experts I respect.
It is my wish to build a school that is entirely dedicated to the couple.
After decades of studying psychology, I've discovered that there's not enough formal education on the highly unique process of helping a couple in distress.
Of the Master's degrees and PhD programs I've researched, the majority do not have specific curriculum focusing on Couples.
I hope to pass on to you what I've learned.
I cannot wait to see you in our practitioner sessions.
All My Love,
Hello Practitioners,
I have spent a lifetime preparing to teach what I have learned.
I am humbled by the messages I receive from experts I respect.
It is my wish to build a school that is entirely dedicated to the couple.
After decades of studying psychology, I've discovered that there's not enough formal education on the highly unique process of helping a couple in distress.
Of the Master's degrees and PhD programs I've researched, the majority do not have specific curriculum focusing on Couples.
I hope to pass on to you what I've learned.
I cannot wait to see you in our practitioner sessions.
All My Love,
Hello Practitioners,
I have spent a lifetime preparing to teach what I have learned.
I am humbled by the messages I receive from experts I respect.
It is my wish to build a school that is entirely dedicated to the couple.
After decades of studying psychology, I've discovered that there's not enough formal education on the highly unique process of helping a couple in distress.
Of the Master's degrees and PhD programs I've researched, the majority do not have specific curriculum focusing on Couples.
I hope to pass on to you what I've learned.
I cannot wait to see you in our practitioner sessions.
All My Love,
Simple Point 001
What You'll Receive
300+ HOURS OF ORGANIZED TRAININGS
You will learn the art of intuition, emotional attunement and the exact rewarding path to take a distressed Couple back to connection.
TWICE A MONTH PRACTITIONER ONLINE EVENT
You will engage with a group of colleagues all witnessing the breakdown of Couples sessions, guided by Derek.
All Times Pacific Standard Time (GMT-8)
2nd Thursday 5pm pst, 4th Thursday 9am pst - (90 minutes)
There will be surprise visits announced in the Facebook group.
ALL MEETINGS RECORDED TO WATCH AT YOUR CONVENIENCE.
QUESTIONS/ANSWERS IN FACEBOOK GROUP FOR EVERY COUPLES SCENARIO
If one therapist or coach is struggling with a particular issue, most likely many others are. Here we will learn the most relevant solutions as your colleagues share their coaching experiences.
SUPPORT FROM YOUR COLLEAGUES
Those that counsel Couples rarely have any kind of supportive community to keep them on track. This is more than accountability. This is collective wisdom that will build for all of us.
What You'll Receive
300+ HOURS OF ORGANIZED TRAININGS
You will learn the art of intuition, emotional attunement and the exact rewarding path to take a distressed Couple back to connection.
TWICE A MONTH PRACTITIONER ONLINE EVENT
You will engage with a group of colleagues all witnessing the breakdown of Couples sessions, guided by Derek.
All Times Pacific Standard Time (GMT-8)
2nd Thursday 5pm pst, 4th Thursday 9am pst - (90 minutes)
There will be surprise visits announced in the Facebook group.
ALL MEETINGS RECORDED TO WATCH AT YOUR CONVENIENCE.
QUESTIONS/ANSWERS IN FACEBOOK GROUP FOR EVERY COUPLES SCENARIO
If one therapist or coach is struggling with a particular issue, most likely many others are. Here we will learn the most relevant solutions as your colleagues share their coaching experiences.
SUPPORT FROM YOUR COLLEAGUES
Those that counsel Couples rarely have any kind of supportive community to keep them on track. This is more than accountability. This is collective wisdom that will build for all of us.
What You'll Receive
300+ HOURS OF ORGANIZED TRAININGS
You will learn the art of intuition, emotional attunement and the exact rewarding path to take a distressed Couple back to connection.
TWICE A MONTH PRACTITIONER ONLINE EVENT
You will engage with a group of colleagues all witnessing the breakdown of Couples sessions, guided by Derek.
All Times Pacific Standard Time (GMT-8)
2nd Thursday 5pm pst, 4th Thursday 9am pst - (90 minutes)
There will be surprise visits announced in the Facebook group.
ALL MEETINGS RECORDED TO WATCH AT YOUR CONVENIENCE.
QUESTIONS/ANSWERS IN FACEBOOK GROUP FOR EVERY COUPLES SCENARIO
If one therapist or coach is struggling with a particular issue, most likely many others are. Here we will learn the most relevant solutions as your colleagues share their coaching experiences.
SUPPORT FROM YOUR COLLEAGUES
Those that counsel Couples rarely have any kind of supportive community to keep them on track. This is more than accountability. This is collective wisdom that will build for all of us.
Frequently Asked Questions
Frequently Asked Questions
(note the same questions are in The Relationship Lab & Attachment University)

The moment you join you will get an email with access to your portal with all the courses, all the lessons, pdfs and video trainings. You'll be invited into the Facebook group community to begin connecting with all the events, and you will see where questions/answers are located. Please give up to 24 hours to be added to the community.

The Relationship Lab and Attachment University memberships include all the courses and trainings that Derek has created, including:

 

The Gaslighting Series, Marriage 2.0, The Self Love Course, Relationship Mastery, The Listening Course, The Communication Course, Understand Male Sexuality and Couple Time How To Build Closeness.

 

Over 100 self-directed lessons are included in the courses. You can do most of them as an individual or as a couple. Keep an eye out for The Candlelight Ceremony in the Couple Time How To Build Closeness  course as it has helped hundreds of couples create a powerful ritual when they disconnect.

All times are displayed in Pacific Standard Time (GMT-8). The Relationship Lab events happen every first Thursday at 5pm pst and every third Thursday at 9am pst. The Attachment University events happen every second Thursday at 5pm pst and every fourth Thursday at 9am pst. Derek will announce and have surprise visits on some Saturdays at 9am pst for The Relationship Lab and Attachment University. All live video sessions will be recorded and available within your membership portal shortly after the live events. The best parts of the sessions will be turned into specific lessons to be easily searchable. You will all be contributing to a growing knowledge base for closeness and intimacy.

 

When members are led into connecting exercises in their own private rooms, those will be private and not recorded.

There are 4 ways to work with Derek.

 

1. On the main web page you can set up a private relationship strategy zoom video call with Derek as an individual or as a couple. This is not just an introduction, but a full session.

2. Join The Relationship Lab, a group for everybody wanting to master their relationships.

3. Join Attachment University, a full program to learn how to coach couples.

4. As a member of The Relationship Lab and/or Attachment University, you will be invited to many extra online and in person events.

Part of Derek's dream is to give away the knowledge at as low of a cost as possible. Excellent couples counseling has become cost prohibitive in most of the world. For in-person events, there will be additional costs to show up at each event. The cost will be determined partially by the venue, and partially by guest teachers. Derek will provide surprise online zoom sessions from time to time, and there will not be a charge. There will be some specialty groups, such as in-person couples groups, and practitioner supervision groups, that will incur additional charges.

Derek will participate in all the live sessions, twice per month. While singles and couples and all open relationship styles are welcomed, Derek will keep the focus on relationship struggles. He will mostly be working with people live in the sessions that are in couples. The powerful teachings will come when everybody in the sessions are sent into their own meeting rooms to discuss what happens in the live couples work. After you meet in your own rooms, you will come back and send questions to Derek during the sessions. This is more of a large group share, where we all participate. Derek will also have office hours, and will answer questions in the private Facebook group. Also questions from the Facebook group will be used to organize future lessons and topics for the live events.

There are two Facebook groups, one for the Relationship Lab and one for Attachment University. If you join both programs, you can become a member of both and ask questions in both.