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Life's too short to have a bad marriage. Let's fix it.

Life's too short to have a bad marriage. Let's fix it.

Life's too short to have a bad relationship. Let's fix it.

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Love Like We Use To Have
I Miss You
You Were My Best Friend
Want To Be Close Again
Commitment
How Do We Start Over?
We Stopped Listening
I Miss Your Care
I Miss Your Touch
We Stopped Saying I Love You
We Stopped Flirting
How Do We Reconnect?
How Can I Trust You Again?
Couples Therapy Hasn't Helped
We Don't Celebrate Anymore
We Stopped Saying The Truth
We Walk On Eggshells
Our Sexuality Went Away
We Threaten Divorce
We Minimize Each Other's Concerns
I'm Alone Too Much
We Don't Have Fun Anymore
I Don't Confide In You First
I Feel Neglected
We Have Too Many Judgments
I Keep Too Many Secrets
We Argue
We Do Silence
I Walk On Eggshells
You're Always Defensive
We Ignore Problems
I'm Attracted To Others More
Attachment Styles
Compassion
5 Love Languages
Secure Attachment
Vulnerability
Listening
Emotional Attunement
Presence
Connection
Intimacy
CoupleTime™
Closeness
Codependency
Interdependency
Validation
Forgiveness
Self-Soothing
Trauma

21 phrases that end every argument

The only proven way to restore a marriage

Life's too short to
have a bad relationship.
Let's fix it.

Learn Individually Or Together
​
Love Like We Use To Have
I Miss You
You Were My Best Friend
Want To Be Close Again
Commitment
How Do We Start Over?
We Stopped Listening
I Miss Your Care
I Miss Your Touch
We Stopped Saying I Love You
We Stopped Flirting
How Do We Reconnect?
How Can I Trust You Again?
Couples Therapy Hasn't Helped
We Don't Celebrate Anymore
We Stopped Saying The Truth
We Walk On Eggshells
Our Sexuality Went Away
We Threaten Divorce
We Minimize Each Other's Concerns
I'm Alone Too Much
We Don't Have Fun Anymore
I Don't Confide In You First
I Feel Neglected
We Have Too Many Judgments
I Keep Too Many Secrets
We Argue
We Do Silence
I Walk On Eggshells
You're Always Defensive
We Ignore Problems
I'm Attracted To Others More
Attachment Styles
Compassion
5 Love Languages
Secure Attachment
Vulnerability
Listening
Emotional Attunement
Presence
Connection
Intimacy
CoupleTime™
Closeness
Codependency
Interdependency
Validation
Forgiveness
Self-Soothing
Trauma
DEREK HART

Life's too short to have a bad relationship. Let's fix it.

Let's fix it.

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21 phrases that end every argument

The only proven way to restore a marriage

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Your Relationship Is Important.

If It Ceases To Grow, You Won't Be Happy Together.

All relationships must be reinvented from time to time, and this is your time to focus back on the person you committed your life to. Relationship training is not taught anywhere. Until now. We aren't shown how to properly listen to each other, and don't understand why we become so frustrated and go in circles with the same arguments.

Time alone does not heal how and why you hurt each other's feelings. You must learn something different. What to do now, in the moment.

All relationship counseling studies confirm that only an emotionally focused strategy on the signals you send each other works long-term for relationship success.

Derek's live video coaching and relationship tools will stop your disconnect in its tracks, and you will no longer have to figure this out by yourselves.

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Find out
why patience, tolerance and acceptance are the least effective methods to restore your connection.
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why your defensiveness and criticism of each other are the greatest indicators of your love for each other.
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Renew your relationship, create a new version of love that is stronger than before, and know every step of the way how to deepen instead of disconnect.

Renew your relationship, create a new version of love that is stronger than before, and know every step of the way how to deepen instead of disconnect.

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What It Was Like and What It's Like Now

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Place Her Tear On You

"Do you have a tear of hers on your finger Max? Can you put it on your eye?

Jen & Max

Thank You For Helping My Parents

"I thought I was going to have to choose which parent to live with. Instead, I helped decide where we went on family vacation. I'm so grateful my parents found you."

Carolyn West, New York City, NY

We Were At Our Wits End, Really Not Communicating

"If we would have started to work with you, we probably wouldn't have gotten separated. We remembered that we're a team, not on opposite teams."

Vanessa Simpkins & Alex Taylor

I Would Share A Feeling, You Would Withdraw, I Would Chase You

"When we went to see you, we were desperate. This will either end us or begin us. After working with Derek, we woke up, and we have tools, and we use them all the time."

Denise & Eric

Two Years Later It's Really Juicy and Sexy and Fun

"The closeness we have now is better than at any time in our marriage. It feels really good to stick it out with your person you promised your life to."

Lasse & Desiree Green

Derek Kept Seeing Us From A Higher Perspective

"Working with Derek I feel is a huge part of why we're married and who we are to each other and that's worth more than you could ever imagine."

Emily & Jed

Couples learned
how to hear each other
how to feel seen
how to listen when they disagree
compassion
they don't have all the answers
the right emotional signals
vulnerable words to use
how to listen and repair one topic
they both wanted to recommit
how to bring their partner close
the exact moment arguments begin
what to do instead of criticize
how to ask for what they need
how to feel heard
why their partner runs away
how to allow mistakes and do-overs
how to risk and feel safe
the move from intellect to feelings
how to both feel understood
new communication
how criticized they both feel
why positive intentions aren't enough
why taking a timeout rarely helps
what to pay attention to
how to stop being defensive
how to listen and what to listen for
Couples Learned
how to hear each other
how to feel seen
how to listen when they disagree
compassion
they don't have all the answers
the right emotional signals
vulnerable words to use
how to listen and repair one topic
they both wanted to recommit
how to bring their partner close
the exact moment arguments begin
what to do instead of criticize
how to ask for what they need
how to feel heard
why their partner runs away
how to allow mistakes and do-overs
how to risk and feel safe
the move from intellect to feelings
how to both feel understood
new communication
how criticized they both feel
why positive intentions aren't enough
why taking a timeout rarely helps
what to pay attention to
how to stop being defensive
how to listen and what to listen for
Place Her Tear On You
How A Teenager Healed
Why We Stopped Divorce
When We Woke Up
Closest We've Ever Been
Why He Proposed
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