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It feels like the first time a man has seen inside my relationship and has heard what I’ve been trying to say for years.
Katie & Michael

I used to do couples counseling as a therapist, so it has been hard to find someone I felt could challenge me enough as a client. I have never come across someone like Derek in the couples therapy world before though. He gets right to the emotional core of the matter. It's like he can see through all the words directly into the raw wound, and he does it with such compassion and understanding. He doesn't need to analyze - he knows that what's really important is to be seen, to be heard, to be felt. And he has been teaching my husband and I how to do that for each other. It's like learning a new language, and it is not such an easy learning curve. But it feels like the first glimmer of hope that a decades-long pattern can be changed. More than anything, as a woman, it feels like the first time a man has seen inside my relationship and has heard what I've been trying to say for years. It's like finally hearing the response I've been hoping to receive. He is also so authentic about his work, so willing to put himself out there, that trusting him comes easily. I am very grateful for his guidance and have been recommending him to all the couples I know!


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These profound tools have created a closeness and intimacy that we have never experienced.
Dee & Ozzie

We initially contacted Derek about 18 months ago. We were having a conversation on how to dismantle our marriage of 25 years. We thought couples counseling would be useful to keep the misery of divorce to a minimum. If it weren't for the introduction of Derek’s new methods of relating we would surely be divorced right now. Instead we are on the road of the continued hard work at deepening our relationship. Derek has developed an amazing set of tools and he has the extraordinary ability of holding space for us so that each of us has the opportunity to truly be heard and understood. This seems to make the issue or problem we are dealing with disappear. We use these tools with each other in our relationship and with others every single day. These profound tools have guided us to transform ourselves individually, and as a couple, which has created a closeness and intimacy that we have never experienced. These shifts in our relationship have provided us with more love, sweetness, deep connection and fun in our lives. Derek has taught us new ways of communicating that help us slow things down and, in turn, halts the destructive cycles we have been engaging in for many years. Thank you Derek for unwavering commitment to healthy relationships and to us!


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Derek taught me to listen, to focus on different details if necessary, to hold a space for my partner, and to love in a more delicate way.
Faith & Zahid
18 months ago, at 36 years old, I entered the most passionate relationship of my life.  We burned hot, in the bedroom and sadly in arguments as well. Our love for each other brought out dark qualities of jealousy, fear, abandonment, and caused us both to dig deep into past traumas we'd thought were buried. Derek worked with us tenderly from only four months into our relationship.  Derek taught me to listen, to focus on different details if necessary, to hold a space for my partner, and to love in a more delicate way.  More than anything, Derek taught me to slow down.  With his help, I discovered more about who I am as a person and how to be a better partner in my relationship. I would recommend Derek as a counselor to anyone who asked.

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My spouse and I accomplished more in three hours than we have in three months with other practitioners.
Marcus & Rachael
Working with Derek Hart was an extraordinarily rewarding experience. Previously, we enjoyed working with two individual therapists, and we participated in a variety of therapy and self-help groups. By comparison, Derek's techniques were both exceptionally effective and very efficient. My spouse and I accomplished more in three hours than we have in three months with other practitioners. I can tell you that we have been through multiple other therapists and counselors, and the one thing that always seems to happen is that we both feel that one of them sides with one of us over the other. That has never occurred with Derek, and he even sometimes asks us if that's happening, so we know he's always making sure it's not. Just that alone made us stick with him. Derek's listening skills are acute, and his ability to translate the position or emotions of me to my partner, and vice versa, were remarkable. The lessons and techniques we learned stayed with us, long after the sessions ended. Most every relationship has some challenges that the partners are not able to resolve. Derek guided us to not only resolve, but make a full repair, to our relationship.

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My husband listens to me now. I’m not sure he ever did before. I fell in love with him again, maybe even more.
Pamela & Jonathan

As a newlywed couple, we have experienced Derek as being a patient, compassionate listener.  In our couples sessions, he has assisted us, in an atmosphere of safety and love, with recognizing and addressing our needs and communication patterns.  He has modeled effective ways to compassionately communicate and to resolve conflict.  Derek combines intuition, skill, and empathy in a uniquely personal way. Mr. Hart does this thing where he knows how to stop us right when we begin fighting, and we can't even see it, but he does. My wife and I really don't know how he sees it so quickly. And then he makes us feel good by telling us how we've just said something important, and how we might not want to just gloss right over it. And then he always seems to know what we're both feeling as we struggle to figure it out. So he takes a guess at what one of us is feeling, and seems to know how to focus on the important parts to then tell each other. Then he gently asks one of us if it's correct, so I believe we both never feel looked down upon. We discussed that we're still not sure how he does it, but if he interrupts one of us, we always know that it's because he thinks one of us said something important. So we both feel really good every time he interrupts us, as we know something important is happening. We are deeply grateful for Derek for this invaluable process.


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Derek’s positive impact on our relationship was profound,
heart-altering and mind-blowing.
Christin & Stephen
Derek is one of the most beautiful, loving and compassionate souls I have ever met. Derek's positive impact on our relationship was profound, heart-altering and mind-blowing and I am sure the same will go for anyone who works with him. Lots of Love, Derek, you are amazing!

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His non-judgmental guidance and insight have helped me have a long term marriage I never thought possible.
Noah & Melanie
I have known Derek for over fifteen years and he has always had an incredible ability to read me and see things most people miss. He has spent years developing an understanding of both male and female needs. His non-judgmental guidance and insight have helped me have a long term marriage I never thought possible. If you truly want your relationship to work I highly recommend working with him.